You didn't lose your faith.
You started listening to yourself.
Religious trauma and deconstruction can upend everything you thought you knew — about the world, about yourself, about who you're allowed to be.
Maybe you were taught that doubt was dangerous. Maybe you've spent years suppressing questions that wouldn't go away, or emotions that didn't fit neatly into what was expected of you. Maybe you finally stepped away — from the beliefs, the community, the identity — and found that the freedom you expected came with a grief you weren't prepared for.
You're not lost. You're finding out who you actually are.
And that deserves real support.
This might sound familiar…..
“I don't know who I am outside of the faith I grew up in.”
“I lost my entire community when I left and no one talks about how much that hurts.”
“I was taught that my feelings couldn't be trusted. I'm still unlearning that.”
“I don't want to be told what to believe. I just want space to figure it out myself.”
“I don't know if I'm reconstructing my faith or leaving it behind but I need both to be okay.”
If you feel disoriented, that makes sense. Let’s figure it out together.
How I help guide…
Lived experience
I will never tell you what to believe or where to land. Having someone else direct your inner life is probably part of what got you here in the first place.
I get that, because I've been on my own deconstruction and reconstruction journey for decades through loss, grief, tragedy and life transitions. It wasn't linear, and there were often long stretches where I felt completely alone in it.
Clinical training and approach
We'll use your own values to guide you to reconnect with your internal motivation using acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), compassion-focused therapy, mindfulness/somatic techniques, and accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy approaches to work with the parts of you shaped by shame or suppression, and space for the grief of community and identity that so often goes unacknowledged.
We’ll orient toward self-compassion, a sense of agency, and finding joy and genuine connection again.