You didn't just lose a person.
You lost the life you built together.
The loss of a spouse or partner reaches into every corner of who you are — your daily rhythms, your future plans, even the way you understand your own story.
I've worked with many people navigating this particular kind of grief, and one thing I've heard over and over is how isolating it can feel, even when you're surrounded by people who love you.
No one quite understands the specific weight of the chair that's empty at dinner, or the moment you reach for your phone to share something and remember all over again, or when you wake up in the morning to find they’re gone.
You are not alone in this. And you don't have to figure out how to carry it by yourself.
This might sound familiar…..
“I feel like half of myself is missing.”
“I'm grieving our future, not just our past.
“People expect me to be 'moving on' by now.”
“I still talk to them. Is that okay?”
Loving them didn't stop when they died. Your grief reflects that.
One of the most painful myths about grief is that healing means letting go — moving on, detaching, putting the past behind you. In my experience working with people who have lost a spouse or partner, that model doesn't reflect the truth of how love actually works.
Research supports this too. Continuing bonds theory — developed by Klass, Silverman, and Nickman — shows that maintaining a connection to the person you lost isn't a sign that you're stuck. It's a sign that love doesn't simply end with death. Our work together makes room for that ongoing relationship, while also helping you find your footing in a life that looks different now.
How we work together…
Healing isn't about closing the door. It's about learning to live with it open.
Our sessions draw on continuing bonds theory alongside narrative therapy, compassion-focused therapy, mindfulness/EMDR techniques, and acceptance and commitment therapy — not to help you detach from your person, but to help you find a way to carry them forward into the life you're still living. We'll also make room for the very real, practical weight of this loss: the decisions you now face alone, the milestones that will sting, the identity shift that nobody warned you about.
We'll move at a pace that respects both sides of what you're carrying, rather than rushing past one to get to the other.
The bonds continue even though the person is not here.
In my years working with people who have lost a spouse or partner, I've come to believe that the goal was never to “let them go”. It's to find a way to keep loving them while also returning, slowly, to your own life.
That's not moving on. That's moving forward — and there's a real difference.
When you're ready to explore what that looks like for you, I'm here.